There are a lot of misconceptions about intelligence and how it is developed. One common misconception is that some people have a natural ability to learn challenging subjects, while others just don’t. In reality, the learning capacity is limitless as long as you’re willing to put in the effort.
In this video, we will learn how to teach your children how to have a growth mindset instead of a fixed mindset. The first one is to
1. Teach Your Child About Their Brain
Intelligence isn’t set in stone! You may have been brought up to believe that some people were just good at challenging subjects, and others just didn’t have the natural ability to learn how to solve very complex math and science problems. But education research has shown otherwise. Teaching children about their own brain’s plasticity can help them develop a growth mindset. Let’s learn more about this in this next clip.
This will allow your child to take on new challenges with positivity instead of fear or anxiety.
Only learning about how the brain works don’t teach a child to have a growth mindset. They also need to understand that
2. It’s okay to make mistakes
– they are an essential part of life!
One way to teach your child this lesson is by telling them stories about mistakes people have made in the past but still went on to achieve their dreams. You can even practice making mistakes and then talking through what you did wrong – then deciding together what would be a better choice next time.
When children struggle or make mistakes, their brains become stronger, Even the neurons inside their brains become denser. When this happens your child becomes smarter!
Now, if your child does fail or make a mistake…
3. Praising their effort over the outcome
will help them see that their brain is growing and getting stronger.
Remind your child that they can always improve, and it’s important for them to be happy with themselves. It’s best to avoid diving into lecture mode because they may end up not believing you, and it could make them feel worse about themselves. So Instead, try commenting on how hard work pays off when achieving something great. Praising the problem-solving process helps promote a sense of self-efficacy since children learn that successes are due to effort rather than fixed-level talent or skills.
Another way to teach your children to have a growth mindset is to…
4. Teach them about positive and negative self-talk
When a child says to themselves, ” I can’t do it,” they are setting up their mind to be a fixed mindset since they soon start believing that they can not do hard things. Another scenario is that your child may see what other amazing things their friends are doing, and they may not even try because they can’t be as good as their friends. Just like how Tabitha doesn’t let negative self-talk get in the way of her having the courage to sing. So instead of having your child think, “they are better at it than me.” help them learn to think of more positive things they could say, such as ” What can I learn from them?” This way, your child will learn to have more positive self-talk.
Developing a growth mindset can also be accomplished by
5. Teaching your child to try new strategies and approaches for problems.
When you are doing this, avoid solving problems for your child. If they are struggling with a problem and you’re tempted to give them an answer, tell yourself “no.” Instead of giving in so that the work can be completed quickly (which would make YOU feel stressed), help brainstorm other ways this task could be accomplished by asking questions like
What resources do I have at home? Who else might know more info about such things?
This way, you are teaching your child to look outside the box for other solutions that could help them resolve the problem.
You may also want to…
6. Teach problem-solving strategies
Such as writing down the problem and then listing possible solutions to that problem or asking for input from family members or friends.
Since problems can be so overwhelming at times, especially for children, having a step-by-step formula can make problems seems less overwhelming. An easy way to make problem-solving easier is to follow these six steps.
Before a problem can be solved. You need to
- Identify the problem
Some kids might be feeling stuck in a negative cycle and don’t know how to get out. Simply stating the problem, such as “You are feeling sad because you have nobody to play with at recess,” can make a big difference for them! But just stating the problem isn’t going to lead to the problem being solved. You need solutions to fix a problem. So you want to help your child.
- Come up with at least five possible solutions.
Lastly, to help your child develop a growth mindset is to…
7. Avoid labeling your child
Yes, even labeling your child with positive phrases such as “you’re so smart” or even negative phrases such as “he struggles with math” both impact a child because both terms communicate a fixed mindset.
Such labels like these can lead a child to have limiting beliefs about themselves and possibly about others.
In some cases, a slight shift in the language we use is all that’s needed – such as adding yet-to provide kids with more options for how they view themselves or other people.
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Brainstorming is an excellent way to find creative solutions. Help your child develop as many different ideas that could work, even if they seem silly or far-fetched at first! Next, you want to,
- List the pros and cons of each solution.
Now that your child has identified potential solutions, help them see what could happen if each option were chosen. It is important for kids to understand the reactions of their actions and why those consequences exist in order to help us not make bad decisions without understanding all factors involved! Once all solutions have been brought to the table, it’s now time to.
- Pick a solution
Encourage your child to pick a solution by asking what they think will work best. Lastly, to see if a possible solution will fix the problem. You need to
- Test out a solution
Tell them to try a solution and see what happens. If it doesn’t work, then they can always go back and repeat the 3rd step.