iwas always so excited to become a mother because it was something I was dreaming about for years. However, I never thought about how hard mentally, physically and emotionally exhausting it would be as a first-time mom.
It is true when people say that having children changes your life. Having our little angel has made for some really tough days and nights but the moments where my baby looks at me and I see nothing but love in her eyes or when I secretly watch my husband and baby laughing uncontrollably together reminds me that it’s all worth it.
The first month after having our baby was challenging and I think it is for most first time mothers. During that first month, my body was still recovering, my breasts were in pain from nursing, and I was trying to figure out how to balance love, care and attention to my husband, our new baby and myself.
I use to think that I had to be in mom mode all time because if I wasn’t I was letting down my baby. I was constantly spinning my mom mode wheels 24/7 and it was draining. I had no energy to smile, laugh or be myself and I felt like I was being stretched thin.
After months of feeling completely drained, I realized that I if I was going to be an amazing mom I always wanted to be I needed to take a break. I needed to have times to just myself to do things I loved and to relax.
Only after that realization have I started to become the mom I always wanted to be. Am I perfect? absolutely not! I still have those days where my energy is drained and I the feelings of stress and frustration overwhelm me.
But in order to be the wife and mother, I want to be I need to take a break to also show love, care, and attention to myself and make sure my needs are being met. My husband is great at helping me to make sure I take care of myself.
When he gets home from work he takes the baby for a bit and allows me to have time for myself. Luckily we have been blessed that our baby goes to bed at 8 p.m which allows even more alone time and time to spend with my husband before going to bed.
I have learned to be okay that our house is messy or how my husband puts it “lived in” I have learned to let go of the little things that push my buttons because allowing those things to control my attitude controls my life.
I am in control of my life, not my thoughts or my attitude.
It is okay if the laundry doesn’t get folded right away
It is okay if there are dishes in the sink
It is okay if you do nothing all day
It is okay to take a break from being a mom!
Having our baby in our life is the best thing and that hardest but most rewarding thing that has happened to us. And as a first-time mom to another remember it is okay…